This thought just struck me while i was discussing some relationship matters with someone close to me. It so happened that while we were discussing expectations in a relationship, it struck that what happens if for one of them (say X), this is their first relationship and for the other person (say Y) it is > 1. Another caveat here….what if the Y has had only bitter endings in the previous relationships??

This is just a thought from the point of view of expectations….

It might happen that X would have expectations of this relationship to be a fairy tale one with everything being perfect. NO fights , no arguments etc etc. A perfect relationship so to say (if there’s any like that)

and Y would definitely question this theory of a perfect relationship coz he would be starting off this new relationship from a base which is completely bitter and so to say close to level 0 while X would want it to be base (infinity)…..

So, while Y would expect a base some what higher than 0 (obviously not infinity) , X would expect nothing short of base infinity (or utopia so to say)

So, the only way this relationship would function properly is when the expectation mismatch is eliminated.In a way, there’s a need to settle down to 0+infinity divided by 2 or somewhere in the middle.

Y speak: There’s nothing like a perfect relationship with no fights , no arguments …and if there is one like this its missing on the imperfections which add spice to a relationship. But in case the dose of spice increases then the taste of the dish is lost