Mind in words…
A crack at understanding the meaning of what goes in my mindArchive for Philosophy
Dreams…till when can they be just dreams
Dream baby dream…make them turn ti reality and see them enact themselves on this stage of life
That’s whats keeping my mind occupied nowadays. Its that restlessness inside me thats got to find a way to turn into something which i can call my own. How many times in the day do i think about the pain im going thru listening to what others want me to do ? Its amazing how people control the will of others and they let them …Im also one of those creatures who right now doesnt have a will of his own but im one of them trying to break out of the shackles of inhibitions and create my own identity on the face of this earth.
I’ll be foolish to say that i dont care about the consequences but im ready to face them in whatever form they confront me with.
I want to create something which i can call my own . Just passionately thinking about this and believing in this has transformed my life completely. I am gonna take a plunge and i wud love everyone to support me but im not counting on them to help me. I do care about people around me and their feelings too. But if in the process of achieving what i want , i hurt them i am upfront sorry for it. Coz i want an identity , i want to prove beyond doubt to everyone on the face of this earth that im capable and i mean every word i say .
Cryptic , no its very simple to decipher. Its no Da vinci’s Code.
Believe in me and ill prove you right.
AB
Relationship management
This thought just struck me while i was discussing some relationship matters with someone close to me. It so happened that while we were discussing expectations in a relationship, it struck that what happens if for one of them (say X), this is their first relationship and for the other person (say Y) it is > 1. Another caveat here….what if the Y has had only bitter endings in the previous relationships??
This is just a thought from the point of view of expectations….
It might happen that X would have expectations of this relationship to be a fairy tale one with everything being perfect. NO fights , no arguments etc etc. A perfect relationship so to say (if there’s any like that)
and Y would definitely question this theory of a perfect relationship coz he would be starting off this new relationship from a base which is completely bitter and so to say close to level 0 while X would want it to be base (infinity)…..
So, while Y would expect a base some what higher than 0 (obviously not infinity) , X would expect nothing short of base infinity (or utopia so to say)
So, the only way this relationship would function properly is when the expectation mismatch is eliminated.In a way, there’s a need to settle down to 0+infinity divided by 2 or somewhere in the middle.
Y speak: There’s nothing like a perfect relationship with no fights , no arguments …and if there is one like this its missing on the imperfections which add spice to a relationship. But in case the dose of spice increases then the taste of the dish is lost
Its all about perceptions
One guy said it about Marketing and I completely agree with it. This article is not written to reinforce this point or prove it in theory, because I don’t aim to do a practical study to enforce this. It is a statement which I believe everyday I see things around me.
My perception about events, people, products etc around me is completely different to what others have or may have. To say that I’ve discovered that it’s all because of the fact that we are in a different state of mind every second, would be a fallacy. It’s just that I haven’t read up on this matter enough to quote anyone. I’m sure someone would’ve written or talked about this before me every single moment man has lived on this earth. It’s such a common thing to think and every broad minded individual would’ve thought and / or talked about perceptions. It’s too generic and simple to be missed.
Coming back to the point of perceptions. Take for example the change of wardrobe which I recently engineered for myself. It was met with strong opposition from my parents especially my mom. I perceived this as necessary as my attire was not fit for the kind of job that I was doing. It was not in fashion and with the kind of clients I would be interacting with , it was absolutely necessary to re engineer it completely. But she did not see eye to eye with me on this. “Work is work and attire does matter , but what about all the stuff that you have before. Will that go waste? Will that rot in the closet? Why should I discard all the stuff which you haven’t worn enough, till now? At least try to use it once in a while.” This was how she countered me. J
I come from a middle class family with safe drinking habits. By this I mean we are concerned about the water which we drink. Water in this part of the world is not safe even if it comes from the municipality. You have to filter it to make it potable. But I don’t understand why people have preference for drinking only mineral water or for that matter imported packaged water from France when packaged water certified to all European standards of purity, made in India, tastes the same?
Yes , when the idea of perceptions being completely different has come to be written about, then why not discuss perceptions changing over time. I again remember an incident happening to me at home. This time it was my mother serving soup in normal “katori” accompanied by a steel spoon , when I rejected the idea and asked her for a bone china soup bowl and spoon instead. Although my request was spurned with a queer look from her but I couldn’t enjoy the soup in that utensil. I’m the same person who used to drink from the same utensil years back and suddenly I changed. Probably the consulting bug has bit me and i’m into the same mode back at home also , trying to live a life up worldly where everything seems so perfect and from the Victorian era.
State of mind phenomena also changes your perception. This incident is my favorite as I’ve seen this happen dime a dozen. Before every party , everyone would say we love boozing and getting high but when the high reaches disproportionate levels and it all spills out in the end with a heavy head crushing hangover , then the only thought that comes to mind is “Why the hell did God invent booze?? L and I’m not going to drink heavy next time” !!
Mistakes and Rejection
I was suddenly reminded of ‘Rejection’ as a topic of discussion when i was seeing a reality contest on TV in which every week they eliminate a contestant. During one of these episodes , a contestant couldn’t handle the fact that he did not take full advantage of the opportunity given to him and succumbed to pressures of the situation. He obviously goofed up. Instead of accepting his fault , he started throwing fits , acting as if he was getting dizzy and telling it was lack of sleep and exhaustion which was making him nervous.
What was more appalling , was judges giving him a second chance. We’ll discuss more on reality TV judges in another post but you see these kind of cover ups , blame games , passing the buck kind of instances everywhere. Is there anyone ready to take blame for the wrong that they do, the mistakes they make?
We believe in the saying “Nobody’s perfect” and “Learn from your mistakes”…. Then why do we dread accepting our mistakes , our faults?
Its rare nowadays that you meet people, who accept mistakes and do not shirk responsibility attached to their actions. But that breed is getting extinct at a disturbing rate.
What could be the reasons behind this attitude?
I’m no researcher to identify them but some which i could think of are :
Firstly , there is so much of responsibility and risk attached to each decision of yours , that accepting blame for a wrong one may lead to immense opportunity lost.
Secondly , there is not enough transparency in systems to reveal the truth , so people hide it as far as they could.
Btw society doesn’t essentially reward people who accept responsibility for their wrong deeds/actions. So why accept ? huh…
Any more ideas??
Craving for work
Ive been sitting idle at home for 2 months now…infact 3 days more than 2 months 
and its been quite a difficult jorney to say the least. Reasons??
For 2 long years , ive been in a Business School where the Stress is religion , Booze is ambrosia , Friends are Angels and Teachers are Demons waiting to give you mental and physical pain. Everytime we used to get a break ( by a break i would mean rest from acads and other related stuff for more than 24 hours), mind used to clink and try to clamour for work and stress just to keep itself busy. It was a completion of a habituation which would now last a lifetime.
Its now been over 2 months now , and a stage of mental stagnation has finally arrived.
Ive come to believe that If the mind which is used to mental stimulation , is not excercised regularly , it may descend into an abyss of degradation. For the mental engine to be revved up , there has to be a dose of heavy duty work load or else its efficiency would reduce. This seems to be my case , and strangely it doesnt seem to follow any of laws which i know of.
Is it strange??
I seriously need a heavy dose of work to get this amazingly small yet powerful piece of mass to get up again ( i’m talking about my brainin case you wander somewhere else).
Is it the same with you??
Philosophy…my style
Stroke of luck you can say. It was just a small trip to a rest room when i got this thought in mind and i decided to pen i down coz it applied to me. Ill call it philosophy # 1 …
It basically states that a man has three states in his life.
State – 1 – This is the state where he has no idea what the world is all about and is still in the process of discovering what he is all about and in addition also tries to wonder what is the meaning and purpose of those around him. Once he gets a hang of things around him and a lil bit of sense of what he is …he transcends to state # 2
State-2 – Ill call it the stage of selfishness. This is where he gets a real hang of himself and does things that satisfy him. Mind it , he might think that a lot of work that hes doing is for the greater good. But essentially it is all driven by a need to satisfy his own inner being.Some people remain in this state and transcend to their abode in this very stage of life. But some go on and try to reach the third one.
State-3- This state ill call the state of contribution. It might seem to be interlinked , intertwined whatever you call it , with the state # 2 but its another state all together. Its the state where a person tris hard to life beyond his own self. Ive seen less of people who’ve seen this stage. People who go all out and think beyond their own self and live for others. I feel most of us human beings live and die in state # 2 . Never even put a foot in state # 3 . Although inside us we feel we’ve done enough for others and lived a part of our life for other , but the truth is , we’ve only tried to satisfy our selfish nature.
I’ve not had enough gray hair on my head or beard as yet to say which of the three stages is better w.r.t to the other. So take your pick or read some saintly , life leading books on such stuff!!
(Comments are not meant to be chauvinistic all because they are in a particular gender but are intended to apply to the other sex(es) as well)
